When you meet me, don't be ill at ease. It will help us both if you remember these simple points of courtesy:

1.  I'm an ordinary person, just blind. You don't need to raise your voice or address me as if I were a child. Don't ask my spouse what I want "Cream in the coffee?" ask me.

2.  I may use a long white cane or guide dog to walk independently; or I may ask to take your arm. Let me decide, and please don't grab my arm; let me take yours. I'll keep a half-step behind, to anticipate curbs and steps.

3.  I want to know who's in the room with me. Speak when you enter. Introduce me to the others. Include children, and tell me if there's a cat or a dog.

4.  The door to a room, a cabinet, or a car, left partially open, is a hazard to me.

5.  At dinner I will not have trouble with ordinary table skills.

6.  Don't avoid words like "see." I use them too. I'm always glad to see you.

7.  I don't want pity. But don't talk about the "wonderful compensations" of blindness. My sense of smell, touch, or hearing did not improve when I became blind. I rely on them more, and therefore may get more information through those senses than you do�that's all.

8.  If I'm your houseguest, show me the bathroom, closet, dresser, window�the light switch too. I like to know whether the lights are on.

9.  I'll discuss blindness with you if you're curious, but it's an old story to me. I have as many other interests as you do.

10.  Don't think of me as just a blind person. I'm a person who happens to be blind.

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